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Silence is a Language

When I watch a good drama, for me, the most moving scenes are those where a conversation is held in silence;  expressive eyes, a turn of the head, a mouth softened or hardened, a gesture.  These are communications, yes, but the silence says more.

Observing silence is a good thing.  Interpreting silence may not be.

I have a friend.  She is lovely.  She has been in my life a long time.  What I know about her is that she has opinions.  She does not always give them.   While I listen to what she is expressing verbally, I also listen to what she is not expressing.

I do not assume that I know the contents of her unexpressed.  When I have a question, I ask.  Before I ask, I gauge if the timing is right.  I don’t want to invade her with my questioning.  I only want to have a gentle inquiry with her because I want our friendship to deepen as a consequence of my inquiry.  I want to know her more and I never want her to feel less.

Speaking into silence is an art.  It is yet another elevated communication skill.  The leader who does not get a reaction to a suggested new policy may want to penetrate the silence.  This is delicate.  Taking a swan dive into the silence requires elegance.  A plunge into the silence is exactly that; a plunge, a push.  An inquiry that is thought out and executed with style may reveal a surprising acceptance vs. an assumed disapproval.

Silence is a language.  It speaks.  Having a conversation with silence creates a whole new world of possibility.  It requires a new code of ethics and patience.  It supports us being very grown up;  ego-less,  modest and forthright.

Listen to the silence.  Respect the silence.  Gently, carefully, probe beneath the surface  to see what is underneath  and experience the lesson that is available to you.

There is a voice beneath the silence.  It wants to be heard.


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Linda K. Wilson
Linda K. Wilson
12 years ago


Beautifully expressed. Thank you for sharing.
In the dance of life,

12 years ago

Hi Linda,
I am pleased that you received value from this post. Thank you for letting me know. Dance is a language too, as you well know.

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Wow! This may be your best post yet! And that’s saying a lot. Sometimes it’s what is not said that is the most important thing to hear.

12 years ago

Hi Dale, so glad that this resonated for you. Communicating has many forms. Thanks for recognizing this and appreciating the post.

Kathy Hoyer
12 years ago

Dear Ellen, this post is part of my continuing education this week on the skill of silence…It seems to be a theme the universe is sending me. I resonate with the patience needed… and the awareness to have patience.
Thank you!

Kathy Hoyer
12 years ago

Dear Ellen…a big hug to you for your sensitivity, depth and style!

12 years ago
Reply to  Kathy Hoyer

Kathy, thank you for your comment! There is truly so much depth in silence.


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